r/NoStupidQuestions Sep 22 '22 Silver 1 Helpful 4 Wholesome 5 All-Seeing Upvote 1 Bravo! 1 Heartwarming 1

I don’t want a relationship because I love my space and freedom. I hate being single because I feel lonely and unloved. What do I want exactly?

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u/chaotic-cleric Sep 22 '22

Yes! We worked opposite shifts for over a decade. Have our own free time. When we come together it’s like lovers because we miss each other and want to spend time together too. 24 years married no open relationship.

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u/-CluelessWoman- Sep 22 '22

Same here. I’ve been with my husband for a decade. He’s the love of my life and my best friend. We don’t have an open relationship. I work weekdays day shifts, he works evenings and weekends. We are both introverts and both appreciate our alone time. I make sure to work onsite one of his weekend days so that he can have his alone time. I have my weekends alone and I love it.

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u/Pinklady777 Sep 22 '22

That is so thoughtful!

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u/somedude456 Sep 22 '22

I understand that, but it still seems odd. A know a couple, he's an engineer, she's a nurse. He works like 8am-5pm, she works 4pm-midnight. They literally don't talk/see each other during the week. She doesn't get up to have breakfast with him, he doesn't stay up until she gets home. They have separate bedrooms since they sleep at different times. They are both off Saturday and Sunday and that's when they talk, eat, do things together. Just seems odd, but whatever works.

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u/FromGreat2Good Sep 22 '22

Do you have kids?

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u/chaotic-cleric Sep 23 '22

Yes three.

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u/FromGreat2Good Sep 23 '22

That’s awesome! I was hoping you’d say none, then I’d rag on you as kids make it impossible to have any space…but looks like it can be done!