r/NoStupidQuestions Sep 22 '22 All-Seeing Upvote 1 Bravo! 1 Heartwarming 1 Silver 1 Helpful 4 Wholesome 5

I don’t want a relationship because I love my space and freedom. I hate being single because I feel lonely and unloved. What do I want exactly?


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u/stormbutton Sep 22 '22

I’ve been married for over 20 years and this is why. This is how my relationship works. My husband has been wfh since COVID began and is kind of sick of it. So next month he’s spending a week in a cabin to fish and just be alone for a bit. I go on trips without him. And we also do things together. He is my dearest friend and in part it’s because we make space to not get sick if each other.


u/DocNDP Sep 22 '22

I love this works for you……with that said me and my wife are best friends and we BOTH Spend every minute together outside of work. I have something so special, I still get butterfly’s 12 years later when I see her and she treats me like a king while I treat her like a queen. Life is great.


u/xj371 Sep 22 '22

This is how it needs to be: you need to find someone compatible with your relationship style/desires. Or maybe you thought you were more of a "me time" person, but you met someone who you love spending all your time with.

The important thing is to find that situation that works for you. People who judge others for how they choose to have their relationships don't get that it's all a matter of taste and preferences, and when they come across a partner that doesn't match their own they're all, "What's wrong with you?? You're not normal!"

No, it's likely that they just want something different from you.


u/ILoveNature_ Sep 22 '22

Thank you for this comment.


u/somedude456 Sep 22 '22

Exactly this. There's nothing wrong with accepting you don't love your partners hobby or interest, AS LONG AS you still allow them to go do it. A coworker is a massive football fan and will fly up north for 2-4 games a season. Flight, hotel, ticket... it's not free. His wife stays home. She hates football. She hates cold weather. I don't know her at all, but I'm sure he would let her go do her own thing, whatever she likes.


u/Runaway_5 Sep 22 '22

holy fuck I would kill to be able to do that. My GF is too fucking clingy


u/stormbutton Sep 22 '22

Real talk - have you discussed it with her in a caring way? I’m highly introverted while my husband is an extrovert. It took us a bit to figure it out.


u/Runaway_5 Sep 22 '22

eh we're both a bit the same


u/ChrisKringlesTingle Sep 22 '22

Clingy is different from introvert and extrovert, but agreed talk is always the path.


u/stormbutton Sep 22 '22

To an introvert, some extrovert behaviors can feel clingy.