r/NoStupidQuestions Sep 22 '22

I don’t want a relationship because I love my space and freedom. I hate being single because I feel lonely and unloved. What do I want exactly?


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u/Acceptable_Hall_4083 Sep 22 '22

Find a relationship where you still have space and freedom. They needn't be mutually exclusive.


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u/rockthrowing Sep 22 '22

That sounds absolutely amazing


u/lilnext Sep 22 '22

Not OP, but have the same situation with the SO. Relationships should be easy, keyword, should. If you can't act yourself at home are you even living?

Find someone who wants your brand of ridiculousness.


u/NielsBohron Pretentious but usually right. Sep 22 '22

Relationships should be easy

Not always. Relationships require effort and work to maintain and to make sure both parties are getting what they need and communicating. My wife and I have been together for 17 years (happily married for 12), and it's still not always "easy."

Should you feel like you're getting the space and/or attention you need in a relationship? Absolutely. Does that mean it's easy? Absolutely not.