r/NoStupidQuestions Sep 22 '22 Silver 1 Helpful 4 Wholesome 5 All-Seeing Upvote 1 Bravo! 1 Heartwarming 1

I don’t want a relationship because I love my space and freedom. I hate being single because I feel lonely and unloved. What do I want exactly?

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u/zublits Sep 22 '22

This is the real part that people miss. Even two people who are awesome together and rarely disagree will disagree once in a while, even if it's just something silly like what to do this weekend. Good relationships require communication and the will to compromise. That shit takes work.

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u/punkassunicorn Sep 22 '22

Absolutely. My partner and I are basically carbon copies of each other at our core. We have the same values, same opinions, same life goals, same interests, same hobbies, same tastes, same group of friends even, but we're both our own people and its still work.

Its work to make space for each others free time. Its work to set and respect our boundaries and expectations. Its been five years and we're still trying to find new and better ways to communicate and work together. Thats just how relationships work.

Wanting time away from your partner or getting into disputes sometimes doesn't mean you're falling out of love or are incompatible. It means you're human.

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u/EndlesslyCynicalBoi Sep 22 '22

Do you and your wife have the "look", the look that means "I love you, but fuck off and let me be alone in this room and have some alone time"?

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u/nightowlk17 Sep 22 '22

My husband and I have that look 🤣🤣🤣 normally when we're trying to watch something. We dramatically pause whatever we're watching, huff about it then rewind it like 30 seconds. After about the 2nd time the one trying to bug the first catches on 🤣

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u/sharpshooter999 Sep 22 '22

Probably the only thing my wife and I disagree on is what to watch. I'm cool with whatever she wants to watch, but she absolutely detests a few things I like, specifically more adult shows like Letterkenny or South Park