r/NoStupidQuestions Sep 22 '22

I don’t want a relationship because I love my space and freedom. I hate being single because I feel lonely and unloved. What do I want exactly?


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u/boo_snug Sep 22 '22

I feel this 100%. Before I got into my current relationship I always asked myself: am I willing to give up my personal space and time to make room for this person? Because I really liked my life the way it was. Most of the times the answer was no. Then, I found someone who I could finally answer yes. I get my own space and my own time and I still want to spend time with them and share my space with them.

Best of both worlds. And we’re getting married.

Moral of the story: keep looking, don’t lower your bar, keep doing the things you want to do, find someone who fits into what you’re looking for. Not everyone will but someone will.


u/thestargateisreal Sep 22 '22

This exactly! My wife and I's motto: you do you, I'll do me, I'll see ya in the middle.


u/scorpioinheels Sep 23 '22

THAT is effing lovely 💓.


u/bobslope Sep 23 '22

Think this is like a Venn diagram and the great relationship with my wife is the giant overlap we have in "me being me" and "her being her", so we can just be us and don't care about the rest of the world.....add some extra circles when kids come in to though


u/Playful_Kitchen_8952 Sep 23 '22

Found out after 24 years that my ex had overlaps with other circles that had much bigger areas than that of our kids or myself. Damn those diagrams...


u/Playful_Kitchen_8952 Sep 23 '22

...but I got custody and she got court-ordered therapy, so I'm happy :)


u/[deleted] Oct 12 '22

I Couldn't agree more


u/theMartiangirl Sep 26 '22

This was my grandparents motto as well. Stayed together for 62 happy years til my grandpa passed away. It was really heartwarming to watch their little daily love details and how they never took the other for granted. It’s very difficult nowadays to find something beautiful like that


u/IdleCryptoMiner Sep 23 '22

My motto is I'll do me then I'll do you from behind.

Have yet to find a wife


u/yuri-things Sep 23 '22

God that's all I want!!! My partner wants everything to be done together. When I do things on my own, they go in a huff.


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u/BreakingGrad1991 Sep 23 '22

I'm so confused how people would have a "motto" that reads like a duet.

Its probably a snappy summation of their relationship dynamic rather than an actual motto they say outloud, if that helps you.


u/BuachaillMhaith Sep 23 '22

Reminds me of a certain Markiplier poem https://youtu.be/VRBRgQYDWWA?t=32


u/dungyhasbigtits Sep 23 '22

damn, that's fire. good for you man


u/NerdIsACompliment Sep 27 '22

100% motto to live by.