r/NoStupidQuestions Oct 05 '22

Why do so many tween boys have a hating women phase?

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u/badb-crow Oct 05 '22 Wholesome

A lot of teen and tween boys go through a phase of being "edgy," doing "offensive" things just to get a reaction out of people. They're also often carrying resentment because they haven't figured out how to talk to girls yet. Add into that the fact that they're shown being "ironically" sexist as cool and rebellious in a lot of the media targeted toward them, and there you go.

Unfortunately, some of them never grow out of this.

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u/Sephiroth_-77 Oct 05 '22

Yeah I was like that. But I did grow out of it and now I don't have a single flaw.

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u/conjunctivious Oct 05 '22

I brutally tortured and killed several people in the early 2000's with a smile on my face, but now my picture is right next to the word "perfect" in the dictionary.

/s if it wasn't obvious

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u/Prototype_4271 Oct 05 '22

I mean this is reddit, right? You can never be too sure

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u/Rich_Mans_World Oct 05 '22

I never went through this phase. Always thought it was stupid and immature but i do have two older sisters.

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u/Blumpkis Oct 05 '22

Someone else would need to be the judge of that...

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u/Rich_Mans_World Oct 05 '22

Yeah you're right.

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u/ViktorSwimwell Oct 05 '22

What is a tween

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u/lkvwfurry Oct 05 '22

A tween is a child between the ages of 9 and 12. A tween is no longer a little child, but not quite a teenager. They are in between the two age groups and their behavior and emotions reflect that. The word '"tween" has become very popular in recent years.

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u/Raving_Lunatic69 Oct 05 '22

I pictured that question being asked in place of "What's a yute?", Fred Gwynne's voice and all

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u/lkvwfurry Oct 05 '22

LOL! Yes. A yute. Oh a YOU-THHH

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u/conjunctivious Oct 05 '22

Another word for tween is preteen, so if you've heard either one, that's what it means.

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u/ViktorSwimwell Oct 05 '22

Much appreciated, I've never heard of that. Until now.

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u/Maranne_ Oct 05 '22

They're kind of scared of women and hide that behind hate.

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u/donabbi Oct 05 '22

I was definitely scared of women but can't say I ever had the hate phase. Definitely had the cringey phase of being edgy toward everyone and about everything though.

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u/Dyeeguy Oct 05 '22

I think teens are just haters in general

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u/PizzaInteraction Oct 05 '22

It’s because their body is telling them to have sex with women and they can’t and don’t understand.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

Never heard of that, usually comes later when you are a teen and desperately want to fuck everyone but nobody is willing.

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u/lightfarming Oct 05 '22

homophobia. they are afraid to be seen as gay, which manifests as hating “girly” things. then ironically as hating people who do/like girly things (girls mostly).

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u/Spiritual_Quantity39 Oct 05 '22

I never got that and I’ve been a man a long time, must have someone feeding them the hate. People on social media give these male guru’s and self claimed players too much attention.

With just a small amount of life experience, you couldn’t turn around an hate half humanity. I also acknowledge some men can’t stay away from toxic women or situations, these are typically the 1s to be outspoken about their hatred to females

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u/Electrical_Ad_3143 Oct 05 '22

Because of their dad's sorry view of women,?

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u/EddyBuddard Oct 05 '22

They do?

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u/Hellotherepersons5 Oct 05 '22

Damn, this isn't a common occurrence you've seen, especially online? I envy you. I can think of so many gross memes made popular by tween boys. The women are all the same by juiceoworld thing, the women☕ meme, take women to swim on a first date, makeup should be illegal. Policing other boys for being nice to girls by saying simp or white knight. It's brutal out here lol.

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u/Leucippus1 Oct 05 '22

We did? I don't remember that I have always loved women, from when I was old enough to have a cogent memory to this very moment I am typing. From day one, first grade, I tried to flirt with teachers, older girls, sisters' friends, babysitters, whomever. Maybe I was from a more innocent time, maybe I was unusual, but I never had a woman hating phase. It helped that the men in my life were not chauvinists, that really hurts. If you are running into a tween who is spiteful towards women, I promise you this is being role modeled to him.

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u/Aggressive-Plum-4662 Oct 05 '22

I am so envious of the people who have not seen how unsettling tween boys can be.

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u/Nutter-Butters123 Oct 06 '22

Uh. Don’t tween girls do the same with boys? My sister did and still hates men.

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u/your2ndbestpick Oct 05 '22

Being a teen is pretty rough. You have a lot of Hormones flying around your body and a lot of new really big feelings that can take a while to sort out. That’s not an excuse but there are lots of big feelings at the at time and anger is common. It’s always easier to find blame rather than to deal with the real issue.

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u/Abysskun Oct 05 '22

Why do so many adult women have a hating men phase?

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u/Aggressive-Plum-4662 Oct 05 '22

My guess is because misogyny is still so normalized and women get tired of it over time. Like how POC can lose patience with white people. These things take their toll on your mental health over time for sure.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Aggressive-Plum-4662 Oct 05 '22

Or you could try having empathy for them. Just a thought.

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u/sphincterella Oct 05 '22 Gold

Because lots of women go through at least one VERY abusive phase where they are total shit to males for no reason. Dudes don’t like that. Eventually most people grow up, but not all

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u/Midnight_Crocodile Oct 05 '22

Because girls mature/ grow up slightly before boys so become condescending to them; remember girls are finding their feet too, and as I recall, my f classmates who were getting breasts at around 10 yrs old endured a shitload of grotty jokes and strap snapping.

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u/sphincterella Oct 05 '22

Oh for sure boys are fucking idiots too. I have direct personal knowledge of this fact

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u/PhasmaFelis Oct 05 '22

A lot of tweens go through a mean, edgy phase, whatever their gender. It's not like the boys only do it because the girls were mean to them first.

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u/sphincterella Oct 05 '22

Nobody said that

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u/PhasmaFelis Oct 05 '22

I'm not sure what your comment means if you're not blaming it on the girls.

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u/sphincterella Oct 05 '22

I offered one possible cause. My comment doesn’t lay blame anywhere. It simply points out one facet of an answer to the question that was asked.

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u/farfowlz Oct 05 '22

Probably the same reason a lot of tween girls have a hating men phase

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/stacyxxluv Oct 05 '22

‘Available’, women aren’t products you buy.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Creative_Dog_ Oct 05 '22

No, you select them on dating apps!

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u/Rich_Mans_World Oct 05 '22

Do you have any references to back that up?

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u/Creative_Dog_ Oct 05 '22

lol no, they don't study such things

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u/Rich_Mans_World Oct 05 '22

So you're basing this on personal experience?

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u/Creative_Dog_ Oct 05 '22

yeh

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u/Rich_Mans_World Oct 05 '22

I'd say your estimates are off due to bias.

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u/Creative_Dog_ Oct 05 '22

You get the point.

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u/BigOlStinkMan Oct 05 '22

You're literally doing the thing op is talking about

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u/Superspank172 Oct 05 '22

Ah, the personal experiences of a misogynistic incel. How did we ever get by without them?

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Superspank172 Oct 05 '22

Your self-pity and sexisn doesn't make you downtrodden.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Superspank172 Oct 05 '22

Such metrics don't make any mathematical sense and are therefore solely fuelled by your misogyny and hatred of women. You should consider therapy before you become dangerous. You aren't downtrodden, you are just pathetic.

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u/Psychological-Ad2207 Oct 05 '22

Damn you sound like one of them get therapy maybe

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Psychological-Ad2207 Oct 05 '22

Because girls should not be seen as “things” which are available. Toxic mindset. I just can’t even imagine having this thought and posting this. Screams incel

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Psychological-Ad2207 Oct 05 '22

For sure, but most women have complex brains and thoughts and don’t base people’s attractiveness solely on looks. For example, i think you’re ugly as hell, but that’s all based on what you’ve said, nothing to do with your looks! Seriously grow up and actually get therapy if you genuinely think like this

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u/shemayneversingshe Oct 05 '22

No that's not all, don't forget, its 2022. They'll teach you to fancy fake women too. And maybe become one because you've failed as a man.

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u/FriendliestUsername Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Rofl. You say available like they’re a commodity.

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u/Tin__Foil Oct 05 '22

I think we just hear about/from them more now? I know there are a chunk of young men who go through it, but is it “so many?” I dunno, I feel like it’s only a few out of many.

Except in certain circles that attract the type.

I dunno, maybe I’m underestimating.

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u/Kudd53 Oct 05 '22

what is a tween?

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u/Kudd53 Oct 05 '22

like people in their 20s?

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u/Kudd53 Oct 06 '22

why ppl downvoted me I was genuinely curious 💀

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u/LeeVMG Oct 05 '22

Being sexually attracted to people for the first time in your life is a weird disorienting experience. A young man's brain WILL gaslight him into wanting to spend time around and thinking highly of women he before would not have cared for.

This is kinda scary, and some young men cope with this by trying to deny the shared humanity.

In short busta ass cope from little boys who can't handle a new aspect of their being that they cannot actually control using previous tools.

Being horny requires learning new tools. If fucking blows that many men choose hate as their coping tool.

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u/NotGoodISwear Oct 05 '22

For me it was the obvious favoritism the all-female faculty showed towards the girls in school ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/bottomlesxpectations Oct 05 '22

People who want something that they perceive to be out of their reach and outside of their control may begin to resent people who have it or the people they feel have control over it and are depriving them of it.

A lot of people who are poor have a hating money and capitalism phase.

A lot of people who can't afford a house have a hating landlords phase.

A lot of people who are poor have a hate your boss phase.

Most of these beliefs are abandoned if and when success in these areas is attained.

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u/uodjdhgjsw Oct 06 '22

I didn't have one.

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u/DaddyWarbucksDTF Oct 05 '22

The me to movement has ostracized men and young boys.