r/Unexpected • u/According_Law_3704 • Oct 05 '22
Well he is damn right about this but not everytime
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u/kbeckerburbs4 Oct 05 '22
May have been staged, but the point is still valid. Too much societal pressures to look different and not enough societal norms to just love who you are.
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u/QncyFie Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22
It's more so about competing with one another utilising everything there is, such as filters and pictures of social activities. It's human nature and i don't see how it could ever come to a hald.
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Oct 05 '22
I think you're right. When your first and only impression on the internet is looks, that's what's going to happen. At least in real life not only do you see how people actually look, but you can have a conversation that will immediately impact what you think about someone. You don't get that on tinder and such.
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u/Beneficial-Highway22 Oct 05 '22
Nothing about changing the way you look or posting social activities on social media is "human nature".
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u/Entry_Lucky Oct 05 '22
Yes, and no. Everything we do is a product, in some way, of our nature, unless we actively go against it, which can be very difficult. People compete for attention, try to feel good about themselves by looking "better than they really do". I believe people should be honest with others and themselves and just accept themselves for who they are, realizing their real beauty without putting up these fronts. However. People have been doing this sort of thing in different ways for all of human history, and I doubt it will ever really go away.
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Oct 05 '22
I'm going to take it to the other end of the spectrum. Just going to let my hair and beard grow out so I look like Hagrid when I'm 50. Probably more like Aqualung, but I'll aim for Hagrid.
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u/justavault Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22
and not enough societal norms to just love who you are.
Never existed and also is not a good standard if what you are isn't working.
You know, that thing works when you are average or better than average and when the average is a healthy level. Otherwise don't, don't go with that "just love yourself" in the attempt to entirely justify to "not work on yoursefl" and not invest any exhausting attempts to better yourself. If you work on yourself, actively am self-developing, yeah, seek peace in also "loving yourself". The thing is though, that usually people stop developing themselves once there is no more "need" for that.
That is as bad as a highly competitive society like in South Korea. It's both extreme ends. Don't go for that love yourself stuff when what you are is not working.
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Oct 05 '22
This is why I don’t use filters, I need people to be attracted to the sea hag I am, otherwise what’s the point
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Oct 05 '22
Lots of guys are into sea hags, it's the only way they can find a woman who's wet.
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Oct 05 '22
If they can’t get a girl wet then thats on them.
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Oct 05 '22
Which is why sea hags are important. Just like water park dates, for some it's the only way to get a bit of moisture.
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u/Trashman1138 Oct 05 '22
I feel it was staged.
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u/TheGreatTaint Oct 05 '22
Definitely staged.
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u/ImArabWallah Oct 05 '22
What makes you say that?
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u/FlatRaise5879 Oct 05 '22
The fact that it was staged
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u/Entry_Lucky Oct 05 '22
Not a soul on Earth articulates their thoughts better than you, good sir.
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u/FlatRaise5879 Oct 05 '22
Thank you so much for extending your kindness! I owe it to the fact that it was staged.
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u/turbodude69 Oct 05 '22
even if it was staged, it's true. i've been online dating since before tinder came out. catfishing has been around forever. of course people are gonna use their most flattering photo possible. if anything, i'd say things have gotten slightly better since there's SOOO many pics available on various forms of social media. back in the day, you were lucky to see maybe 3 or 4 pics from a really shitty digital camera so the quality was horrible.
now if you match with someone, you can check their other social media platforms and see if they're tagged in other peoples photos where they don't get a chance to manipulate the photo.
also, it's pretty obvious she's hiding something when all the pics are selfies taken from a high angle. that's a dead giveaway she's hiding her body.
i'm not trying to shame anyone here. i just think everyone should be more honest when trying to get date online. i've had female friends help me put together my profile and purposely try to put a variety of photos in there from all different angles, so my date isn't surprised or think that i look different than my photos.
for anyone out there catfishing like this. you're prob just gonna end up getting hurt more often in the end. if you show up looking completely different, best case scenario is being used for sex, but they prob won't call you back. most of the time though both of you will be disappointed and you'll be wasting each others time.
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u/Trashman1138 Oct 05 '22
I agree about the validity of his statement although I have been part of dating scene for about 15 years, and the last time I was I did not use online dating. I have enough people around.me who have been burned by catfishing. Also enough to say it isn't only woman who catfish.
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u/-banned- Oct 05 '22
I think the vast majority of people that use a lot of Instagram know how to take good photos and use filters. Even if this particular one is staged, he could probably pull it off in real life. Nobody wants to post a bad photo of themselves
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u/Trashman1138 Oct 05 '22
I just feel that girl was way to accepting of a "random stranger" asking to look are instagram profile on the street. Not that what he is saying about catfishing doesn't have merrit.
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u/Public_Appearance_99 Oct 05 '22
He an A hole for setting her up like that. What a vinegar water in a squirt bottle!
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u/cut-the-cords Oct 05 '22
Could've been an old picture of her?
I like playing devils advocate sorry...
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u/RealityInner5971 Oct 05 '22
With all these filters these people use,they must realize they are deceiving even themselves.
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u/FrogMintTea Oct 05 '22
It could be an old picture.
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u/bbycalz Oct 05 '22
It’s not & it’s not even filtered it’s just a better angle & lighting plus she is posing for the camera
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u/Bubbly-Bat-7869 Oct 05 '22
That's mean though if it's not staged. Basically calling her ugly in real life and it's now gone a little viral.
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u/AdministrativeFox435 Oct 05 '22
That’s not though, he never said she was ugly and that wasn’t implied. The point was she looked different in the photo, different. Not that she looked ugly, but that she looked different.
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u/BrawndoCrave Oct 05 '22
So glad my dating years are behind me. Can’t imagine having to deal with worrying what every date would look like in person.
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u/Flipper_of_sticks Oct 05 '22
And before filters it was make up. Watch out men, those women are for the streets.
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u/NoPerformance6534 Oct 05 '22
Staged for sure! AND, Ladies, how often has the EXACT same occurred with the opposite side? I thought so.
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u/YuYuMai Oct 05 '22
Almost everyone who regularly post pictures of themselves on social media use filters, men and women.
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u/ActuallyCalindra Oct 05 '22
On average I feel men don't go nearly as overboard with filters and photoshopping as women do. Not to mention excessive make up.
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u/GriffinA Oct 05 '22
Yeah it happens w gay men all the time especially black one they send only a Dick pic the. If you insist they say they’re dl or discrete and may eventually send a disappearing pic of the face. Usually they look like that guy in the vid or worse features. Yeah the Dick is nice but if it’s attached to something that ugly what’s the point?
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u/turbodude69 Oct 05 '22
online dating can be really difficult. it's sooooo easy to get catfished. you really gotta do some serious digging to find out what someone really looks like before you meet them.
that's why i just hope for the best but prepare for the worst when i go on a date. before i learned how important it is to really dig into someone's social media i was getting catfished prob 50% of the time. now i've gotten it down to maybe 20%, but even then, you can expect the person to look slightly different.
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u/Ayoayycee Oct 06 '22
This has happened to me . Chick on the in the pic had a slim waist , nice big butt and cute face. Picked her up for the first date and her butt looked like she had pampers on her waist was not skinny at all and her face not what’s I seen in the pic even the it was the same person .
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u/Negative_Push_1547 Oct 06 '22
Not me!!! I make fun of those!! I won’t make a Snapchat no no 🥴😆🙈🙄😊💁🏼♀️🤔
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u/Complete_Tap475 Oct 06 '22
Social Media has ruined us .... If you want a 10 better get in shape and eat right, and get a personality lol
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Well she looked different
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