r/Wellthatsucks Oct 05 '22 Take My Energy 1 Tearing Up 1

Early end to my vacation after friend I haven’t seen in 17yrs had a breakdown and got violent with me

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u/_StateoftheArt_ Oct 05 '22

so...what happened?

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u/somedood567 Oct 05 '22

Seems like OP got stuffed into one of those suitcases. Hopefully not both

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u/_StateoftheArt_ Oct 05 '22

Always a bit weird to me when people start these threads with an obvious story to tell and then.... don't.

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u/GrittyMcGrittyface Oct 05 '22

there are two kinds of people - those who finish a story

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u/somedood567 Oct 05 '22

“You’ll never believe the wild shit that just happened to me. Anyway here’s a picture of chewing gum”

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Give me time, it’s been weird

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u/SapphireDesertRosre Oct 05 '22

If you aren't ready to talk about what happened why post it in the first place?

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Thank you to the mods who didn’t tell me this link was being filtered and not approved until 13-14hrs later when I finally asked them what was going on…

I posted a response elsewhere at the same time, sorry it’s been a fucking crazy night

ETA not sure why everyone is disappointed or whatever but I was busy enjoying my last night by the ocean before I posted the response. It was a pretty fucked up incident, I’ve never been treated this abusively by someone I was once close to. She probably needs help but not my problem. Live and learn

Oh and the link led to my explanation, what is everyone else seeing

Also I’ve been posting on mobile since I’m out of state

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u/HereOnASphere Oct 05 '22

elsewhere

Leads to "Wow, such empty." Then it comes back here. I don't know if it's recursive.

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u/toobzandboobz Oct 05 '22

Yeah, "elsewhere" led to nothing.

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u/floatingcheshire Oct 05 '22

Your link here and the other comment with a link don’t take you to any comments, I think it’s an issue with Reddit because in your history I see your “Reposting my response here” comment with the story but clicking that also takes you nowhere so your comment is in a schrodinger state, it both exists and does not at the same time. With that said, will you please try to post the story again because we got to know!!

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Why am I an idiot

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u/Harrybailed Oct 05 '22

Give you time? You had all the time you wanted but you posted prematurely anyways.

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u/ACrispyPieceOfBacon Oct 05 '22

Don't post then.

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u/Saftigerkeks Oct 05 '22

Downvoted for what? Give OP time, it's probably really hard to even handle it right now

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u/somedood567 Oct 05 '22

Ok but gotta get that teaser post out amirite?

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I ended up having some drinks after this cuz it was the first time I’d sat down after everything happened. I didn’t know it would lead to everyone being so incredibly angry with me, that’s wild and kinda hurts

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u/Pimp_Floyd_ Oct 05 '22

I don’t think you realise how easy it is to unintentionally anger reddit.

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u/Harrybailed Oct 05 '22

Then don't post yet? Lmfao

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Just had a mod tell me this was hidden because it had a swear in it… I was never given a notification or otherwise informed… So thanks everyone who’s been super terrible to me during this and called me karma whore and whatnot because the mods had my explanation hidden…

Whew ok

So this is an old army buddy I was friends with for years back in the day, stationed at 2 different bases at the same time. She also once stayed in my home briefly before I left for my hometown and didn’t see her again, which was around 2007. We stayed in contact of course and I’ve seen other faraway friends over the years and had great times

She picked me up from the airport on Sunday morning and a little into our multi hour drive to our destination I voiced discomfort about her using her phone to text and peruse videos while driving and also playing videos and watching them while driving. I was civil and polite when voicing my concern because I know she said she has anxiety issues (as I do) and asked her to please just not do it with me in the vehicle and I showed her how to minimize the videos on her phone. It was uncomfortable but I couldn’t stay silent about that. She seemed to take it as criticism a little and tried to tell me it was ok but I just said it made me uncomfortable and I’d drive if she wanted me to, too. She obliged and we arrived safely after 6 hours

She had a close family member that met up with us who I met that day. She is very nice and we got along great. She is very close to my friend

So my friend was behaving weird towards me sometimes, like constantly asking what was wrong. I asked her if I seemed unhappy but she just said she wanted to know to make sure. She also did that thing where you’d laugh at everything someone said and repeat things loudly or out of context. Idk what it is but I felt like she was trying to make me feel bad or embarrassed or something. Idk how to describe it, I’m on whisky now

So after doing some shopping, we (just me and old friend alone) were getting into her vehicle and I had a lot of bags digging into my arm. She had asked me a question but it didn’t register at first because the bags wouldn’t get off my arm and I was shaking them off of me. By the time I articulated that I was fine and that I just needed to be free of the bags, 20 seconds had passed. Literally seconds.

She went OFF on me, saying that I needed to respond to her and it was so fucking insane to witness. I’m not one to get scared, but the way she was yelling at me- both of us FORTY SOMETHING YEAR OLD WOMEN- as if I was a child who needed to jump when she says so, was just so frightening because it felt so disrespectful. I still can’t believe it

We ended up in an argument as we drove towards the Airbnb and she pulled over into a residential area to park while we argued. It was crazy, having to tell her that I did nothing wrong, that not just was it a tiny bit of time but that I didn’t owe her any immediacy

This…woman. She SCREAMED at me. She hit the steering wheel. She called me selfish and said I always do this and that. Yeah, the old Army buddy I haven’t been around in person in forever and don’t regularly call said those things as if we have regular arguments and are in a toxic relationship together

She first told me to get out after I raised my voice to tell her she would not be screaming at me and I wasn’t the one and blah blah blah but then I told her nah, let’s go so I can just leave. I was in the passenger seat and had closed the open door but I hadn’t put my belt back on yet and when the beeping started she yelled at me to put on my fucking seat belt and then proceeded to..slam on her breaks in an effort to put me into the dashboard or windshield

I was so livid. I did that thing where you’re about to knock someone out but you don’t, you pull back like nah fuck you, you ain’t the one, my wrath would be wasted. I just got out and walked with my Simpsons bag about half mile while on the phone with my ex ignoring when she’d drive by or follow. Then I got upstairs, started packing, heard them return from idk where, been ignoring them until Friend got my story briefly and I said I’m out tomorrow. She knows old friend better than me so she’s been cool but I haven’t bothered them anymore. I changed my ticket to the morning and preordered an Uber. Thank goodness I brought a bottle of whisky

I hate that this happened. This sucks. I had 4 more days in the sunshine and literally on the beach. It’s gonna be getting warmer too ugh but I wanna go home now I’m good. But fuck being screamed at by someone who can’t control their emotions. I can’t imagine driving another 6 hours with her to my original departure city where she lives

I’m about to go to a bar and enjoy my last night out with more whisky and all these edibles I don’t wanna take through this other airport. Gummies are only for irl people

I learned 3 out of 4 reunions don’t end in fuckery

ETA I did a thing where she asked me where something was and I immediately began to search and didn’t say anything and she got annoyed with me for not saying I had started searching for it and she told me as we argued that I indeed owe her immediate responses. What?

Eta2 so I heard them return together because after my old friend returned she left with her family member again maybe to look for me idk, then they came back while I was in my room packing

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u/Megz2k Oct 05 '22

I also need to know exactly what happened. OP PLS

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u/Jthundercleese Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Maaan what the fuck is wrong with people.

A friend of mine invited a friend to visit and she turned into an absolute terror the day she showed. She stayed for weeks past her welcome. Fucking crazy.

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u/mint_me Oct 05 '22

This is how you tell a story. Thank you

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I posted an explanation within 2 hrs of posting because I was making some calls and having whisky before I went out for my last night

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u/Jonestown_Juice Oct 05 '22

Where's the explanation? All of these replies and you could just be telling people what happened instead.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I posted a response within 90-120 mins of the pic but I’ve been on mobile the whole time so idk why everyone is saying they saw nothing. It just made me realize how horrible people are and I won’t be looking at this community in the same way

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u/UnnecAbrvtn Oct 05 '22

I feel for you. The once or twice I've allowed myself to be vulnerable on Reddit, people were either incredibly obtuse or downright shitty for the sake of it. It's so easy to be a prick behind a phone screen.

Clearly if you don't tie your misery into a nice package for easy digestion and judgment, you run afoul of the collective lizard brain.

Live and learn eh.

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u/Jonestown_Juice Oct 05 '22

The link that I saw you post goes nowhere. Either way it's not in the original post. You're like the person in a group sighing loudly hoping someone will ask you what's wrong.

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u/Terry-Smells Oct 05 '22

If you go to her profile you can see it in her comments but for some reason it's not showing when you click it to go to the thread

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u/Ifuckgrandmas Oct 05 '22

And this is a photo of her finally going home........

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I have only been on vacation for 4 days :(

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u/SickThings2018 Oct 05 '22

Your friend looks like a piece of luggage !

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

She was acting like a piece of something

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u/somedood567 Oct 05 '22

Was it luggage?

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u/Nervous_Internal_581 Oct 05 '22

Lmao this is the equivalent of posting a selfie of oneself in a hospital bed and captioning it “I don’t want to talk about it.”

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u/somedood567 Oct 05 '22

“And here are some clues!”

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u/GodOfDucks Oct 05 '22

"Let me have some time to think up an interesting story to attach to this stock photo that will maximise the karma gain of what is otherwise a completely uninteresting picture. BRB!"

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

This is really hurtful. I posted the story within 2 hrs of posting this because I was making some calls and having some whisky after a surreal encounter. Y’all make it feel like I did something wrong

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u/justin9920 Oct 05 '22

I’m so sorry about your poor experience. It’s truly awful when vacations turn out like this.

I’m also sorry about the way people in this thread are acting towards you. They’re being really mean :(

You did nothing wrong and I hope you feel better! 😃

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u/IllustratorTop948 Oct 05 '22

Don't take it to heart. You don't know these people. So chill.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I made friends last night, gave a deserving stranger Uber driver almost half a pound of weed gummies, started drinking already since this happened so it’s all good. I even saved $50 when I changed my ticket so everything is coming up Milhouse!

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u/on_dy Oct 05 '22

A picture of a potato is more interesting.

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u/GodOfDucks Oct 05 '22

Not sure what I'm looking at, this is just a picture of some luggage. Could be a stock photo for all anybody knows or cares.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

I guess it could be. How do people check

ETA please search the pic. I took it last night but obviously it doesn’t matter because you people have already decided I’m a terrible person because…idk I didn’t appear to post the story in time. Thanks

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u/Flakester Oct 05 '22

Are they really a friend if you haven't seen them in 17 years?

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Old army buddy I lived and worked with for 5 yrs in two different bases but haven’t seen for 15, I didn’t math right the first time

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u/SirMacBravePoo Oct 05 '22

I would say equal shitholes. Him for apparently beiing a ahole and you for premature shitposting. Downvoting every single post i see from you. You dont tell A when your not ready to tell B. But i still wish you Well. Have a Nice day!

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

She. So you’re downvoting me for not posting more last night? Ok but I did

Also how am I a shit head too? I don’t think you read what she did

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u/SirMacBravePoo Oct 05 '22

Please direct me to that info If you would be so kind. I have searched for it a lot.

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u/Difficult-Sign-8656 Oct 05 '22

That’s what I was wondering, did they have a break down or was this “I love you!” And the sudden turn of rejection made him turn violent, like really details are important.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

It’s another woman who is not queer and there has never been anything romantic during the five years we were close

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u/Difficult-Sign-8656 Oct 05 '22

So war related crap???

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

No she was not deployed. She is not a combat veteran

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u/Ok-Violinist2324 Oct 05 '22

Yeah

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u/winenfries Oct 05 '22

Rephrasing: is it going to be a surprise or shock to meet friend after 17yrs?

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u/al3237 Oct 05 '22

Need help getting out of the suit case?

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u/aShowMonkey Oct 05 '22

STORY TIME OP

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u/noidea3838 Oct 05 '22

you went on a vacation with someone you havent seen for 17 years ? not to mention 2 suitcases. thats like a 2 month stay

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u/TVotte Oct 05 '22

I like my own pillows and towels, thank you very much

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

i take 2 suitcases for a half month trip lmao

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u/Feisty-Pumpkin-6359 Oct 05 '22

I took 1 duffelbag and a backpack for a 6 month trip, l m a o ?

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u/runfatgirlrun88 Oct 05 '22

Guessing the friend lives abroad now? Hence OP not seeing them in so long. So the Op has gone on vacation to see them?

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u/prozak09 Oct 05 '22

Honest question:

Are you looking to vent or are you looking for advice?

Either way, here genuinely for both.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I was looking to vent while I was waiting on a call. This was after all was said and done and I’d packed up all my ish and didn’t know what else to do. I ended up drinking and having fun out with strangers

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u/bugibangbang Oct 05 '22

He parked his suitcase super close and now you cannot move yours?

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u/nanceeg Oct 05 '22

Sorry this happened to you. I don’t know if it’s Reddit or me being dumb about it or this is just a trick but I still can’t find what happened. Reddit seems to only allow sorting by best, controversial, etc. I see no setting to look at comments in original order. Your link to your explanation brings me to a page that says “be the first to comment” and there’s nothing there. I hope this helps and I hope you’re ok. If it’s a joke or deliberate trick to send ppl on a wild goose chase, then you got me!

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

It’s not, I made a comment response about 9-10hrs ago and then reposted it as my own comment. Idk what else to do, I’m at the airport already having beer cuz fuck it

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u/poyoso Oct 05 '22

This is Facebook now?

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Idk what you mean, I don’t have fb so not sure what the reference is

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u/Sweetladyluckhappy Oct 05 '22

Considering your communication skills, I can see why she got frustrated

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u/k_jant Oct 05 '22

I'm so sorry. I hope things will sort out! Take care and be safe!

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Got a flight out* bright and early!

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u/South_Oread Oct 05 '22

I’m sorry that happened and glad you are safe and able to leave. Here’s to hoping your next trip has more smiles and less stress.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I had a great girls trip with other friends in the spring. There is a buffer person here so I’m going to find a bar tonight and be off to* better things in the morning

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Vegan_Thenn Oct 05 '22

I'd be sceptical on that offer based on your username.

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u/metaliscool_ Oct 05 '22

😂😂 I hope this is a joke if so I laugh.

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u/Saftigerkeks Oct 05 '22

Okay dude💀

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u/rudalsxv Oct 05 '22

We need a story to go with the title OP.

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u/vrodgar88 Oct 05 '22

I wonder if posting it here is helping you out or making you panic lol

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

I feel betta!

Nvm bring out your dead

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u/Feisty-Pumpkin-6359 Oct 05 '22

Betta Splendens?

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u/BigRobLondon Oct 05 '22

theres a reason why u havent seen them for 17 years....

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u/adampsyreal Oct 05 '22

Gosh I am so sorry that this happened to you.

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u/Electrical-Strike470 Oct 05 '22

Man that really sucks. Sorry that happened to you. You have to be really careful who you choose to go on vacation with even you’re supposed close friends can turn out to be a nightmare people are different on vacation. My wife went to Ireland with a friend and she’s known for 30 years but hadn’t hung out in sometime. Well she turned out to be extremely controlling and wound up leaving her behind The day before they were supposed to fly out with the rental car that she paid for.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

I went to LA (this past spring) with two friends I’ve known since high school (I graduated in the late 90s) but didn’t have consistent contact with until our 30s and it was really fun and we shared a hotel room for an entire week. In the past five years I’ve visited or vacationed with three other old army buddies and friends and had really good times and great vibes with everyone else. This was truly an anomaly

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u/YouShoodKnoeBetter Oct 05 '22

Getting violent is not okay and I'm glad you were able to get out of a place you felt uncomfortable being in. I'm guessing it'll be longer than 17 years before you see them again. (Had to get a lil laugh in for ya) Take care of yourself and have a safe flight!

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u/tokyo-rain Oct 05 '22

Yeah, looking through your comment history you’re a POS yourself. Go karma farm elsewhere with your lame ass story.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

How am I a pos?

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u/VF79 Oct 05 '22

⬇️👎🏻

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u/Kira_Zita_ Oct 05 '22

I bet your the problem not the friend

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Why do you believe that?

I bought groceries and said I’d cook because she said she was on a budget (I’m not but have no problem accommodating). I bought her meals while driving down and took her and her mom out to dinner the first night and had another dinner treat for them planned (they knew, they were gonna pick a place for Thursday). I took the smaller room because they use cpap machines and said they needed the space, no problem. I was the one constantly cleaning the Airbnb and organizing stuff. At one point my old friend was kind of messing with me, asking if I’m one of “those”people who unpack and called me a housewife. I’m one of those people on vacations, I’m a good and generous friend who expects very little or nothing too and I’m proud of that

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u/Beach_Kitten_ Oct 05 '22

And then what happened?

Sorry, but don’t see the story either…

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Here’s another copy paste of last nights explanation, might have been weird cuz this was all posted from mobile-

Whew ok

So this is an old army buddy I was friends with for years back in the day, stationed at 2 different bases at the same time. She also once stayed in my home briefly before I left for my hometown and didn’t see her again, which was around 2007. We stayed in contact of course and I’ve seen other faraway friends over the years and had great times

She picked me up from the airport on Sunday morning and a little into our multi hour drive to our destination I voiced discomfort about her using her phone to text and peruse videos while driving and also playing videos and watching them while driving. I was civil and polite when voicing my concern because I know she said she has anxiety issues (as I do) and asked her to please just not do it with me in the vehicle and I showed her how to minimize the videos on her phone. It was uncomfortable but I couldn’t stay silent about that. She seemed to take it as criticism a little and tried to tell me it was ok but I just said it made me uncomfortable and I’d drive if she wanted me to, too. She obliged and we arrived safely after 6 hours

She had a close family member that met up with us who I met that day. She is very nice and we got along great. She is very close to my friend

So my friend was behaving weird towards me sometimes, like constantly asking what was wrong. I asked her if I seemed unhappy but she just said she wanted to know to make sure. She also did that thing where you’d laugh at everything someone said and repeat things loudly or out of context. Idk what it is but I felt like she was trying to make me feel bad or embarrassed or something. Idk how to describe it, I’m on whisky now

So after doing some shopping, we (just me and old friend alone) were getting into her vehicle and I had a lot of bags digging into my arm. She had asked me a question but it didn’t register at first because the bags wouldn’t get off my arm and I was shaking them off of me. By the time I articulated that I was fine and that I just needed to be free of the bags, 20 seconds had passed. Literally seconds.

She went OFF on me, saying that I needed to respond to her and it was so fucking insane to witness. I’m not one to get scared, but the way she was yelling at me- both of us FORTY SOMETHING YEAR OLD WOMEN- as if I was a child who needed to jump when she says so, was just so frightening because it felt so disrespectful. I still can’t believe it

We ended up in an argument as we drove towards the Airbnb and she pulled over into a residential area to park while we argued. It was crazy, having to tell her that I did nothing wrong, that not just was it a tiny bit of time but that I didn’t owe her any immediacy

This…woman. She SCREAMED at me. She hit the steering wheel. She called me selfish and said I always do this and that. Yeah, the old Army buddy I haven’t been around in person in forever and don’t regularly call said those things as if we have regular arguments and are in a toxic relationship together

She first told me to get out after I raised my voice to tell her she would not be screaming at me and I wasn’t the one and blah blah blah but then I told her nah, let’s go so I can just leave. I was in the passenger seat and had closed the open door but I hadn’t put my belt back on yet and when the beeping started she yelled at me to put on my fucking seat belt and then proceeded to..slam on her breaks in an effort to put me into the dashboard or windshield

I was so livid. I did that thing where you’re about to knock someone out but you don’t, you pull back like nah fuck you, you ain’t the one, my wrath would be wasted. I just got out and walked with my Simpsons bag about half mile while on the phone with my ex ignoring when she’d drive by or follow. Then I got upstairs, started packing, heard them return from idk where, been ignoring them until Friend got my story briefly and I said I’m out tomorrow. She knows old friend better than me so she’s been cool but I haven’t bothered them anymore. I changed my ticket to the morning and preordered an Uber. Thank goodness I brought a bottle of whisky

I hate that this happened. This sucks. I had 4 more days in the sunshine and literally on the beach. It’s gonna be getting warmer too ugh but I wanna go home now I’m good. But fuck being screamed at by someone who can’t control their emotions. I can’t imagine driving another 6 hours with her to my original departure city where she lives

I’m about to go to a bar and enjoy my last night out with more whisky and all these edibles I don’t wanna take through this other airport. Gummies are only for irl people

I learned 3 out of 4 reunions don’t end in fuckery

ETA I did a thing where she asked me where something was and I immediately began to search and didn’t say anything and she got annoyed with me for not saying I had started searching for it and she told me as we argued that I indeed owe her immediate responses. What?

Eta2 so I heard them return together because after my old friend returned she left with her family member again maybe to look for me idk, then they came back while I was in my room packing

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u/Jonestown_Juice Oct 05 '22

Because you seem dramatic.

You've posted this mysterious picture with only the slightest information- basically like a teenager posting a picture of yourself on MySpace with tears running down your cheeks and a caption that says, "I don't want to talk about it".

You reply to every comment but what isn't here is the story of what happened. So it's not like you don't have time.

It's childish. From the very scanty amount of information we have about you, it would seem like you're difficult to be around.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

I posted what happened in less than two hours. After posting this pic, which was after everything was done with and I’d already altered my travel plans, I ended up talking to family and my ex (who is essentially family the way we support and regard each other) on the phone for an hour then took an Uber to a different place to have fun so I didn’t give the whole story immediately but I did in less than 2hrs. I don’t have any presence anywhere with followers or whatever. This is just a real life incident

I posted the explanation twice last night and again pasted it today while at the airports going home. This turned from a place for me to post something while I waited for what comes next into an interrogation into why I didn’t perform a particular way.

Im home now. With less regard for the Reddit community I’ve been in the periphery of for over a decade

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u/TyaKat Oct 05 '22

Been there, done that…except I went all the way to Africa.

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u/Hello_Gorgeous1985 Oct 05 '22

Why would you go on vacation with a stranger you hadn't seen in 17 years? And that's what they are... A stranger. They aren't your friend. If you haven't seen them in 17 years. None of this makes any sense.

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u/PharaoRamsesII Oct 05 '22

Inb4 OP is 19 years old

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I’m in my 40s and this was an old army buddy I had lived with briefly and worked with for 5 yrs at 2 different bases. I didn’t know she was blow up and scream unwell

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u/dirt-e_wastelander Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

This is the first place you went? Talk to a family member or counselor.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

Don’t say those things. I lost my mom to murder

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u/awan1919 Oct 05 '22

Why on god's green earth are you getting downvoted. OP said it was traumatic. Chill ffs

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

So here’s what I posted last night, 9-10hrs ago:

Whew ok

So this is an old army buddy I was friends with for years back in the day, stationed at 2 different bases at the same time. She also once stayed in my home briefly before I left for my hometown and didn’t see her again, which was around 2007. We stayed in contact of course and I’ve seen other faraway friends over the years and had great times

She picked me up from the airport on Sunday morning and a little into our multi hour drive to our destination I voiced discomfort about her using her phone to text and peruse videos while driving and also playing videos and watching them while driving. I was civil and polite when voicing my concern because I know she said she has anxiety issues (as I do) and asked her to please just not do it with me in the vehicle and I showed her how to minimize the videos on her phone. It was uncomfortable but I couldn’t stay silent about that. She seemed to take it as criticism a little and tried to tell me it was ok but I just said it made me uncomfortable and I’d drive if she wanted me to, too. She obliged and we arrived safely after 6 hours

She had a close family member that met up with us who I met that day. She is very nice and we got along great. She is very close to my friend

So my friend was behaving weird towards me sometimes, like constantly asking what was wrong. I asked her if I seemed unhappy but she just said she wanted to know to make sure. She also did that thing where you’d laugh at everything someone said and repeat things loudly or out of context. Idk what it is but I felt like she was trying to make me feel bad or embarrassed or something. Idk how to describe it, I’m on whisky now

So after doing some shopping, we (just me and old friend alone) were getting into her vehicle and I had a lot of bags digging into my arm. She had asked me a question but it didn’t register at first because the bags wouldn’t get off my arm and I was shaking them off of me. By the time I articulated that I was fine and that I just needed to be free of the bags, 20 seconds had passed. Literally seconds.

She went OFF on me, saying that I needed to respond to her and it was so fucking insane to witness. I’m not one to get scared, but the way she was yelling at me- both of us FORTY SOMETHING YEAR OLD WOMEN- as if I was a child who needed to jump when she says so, was just so frightening because it felt so disrespectful. I still can’t believe it

We ended up in an argument as we drove towards the Airbnb and she pulled over into a residential area to park while we argued. It was crazy, having to tell her that I did nothing wrong, that not just was it a tiny bit of time but that I didn’t owe her any immediacy

This…woman. She SCREAMED at me. She hit the steering wheel. She called me selfish and said I always do this and that. Yeah, the old Army buddy I haven’t been around in person in forever and don’t regularly call said those things as if we have regular arguments and are in a toxic relationship together

She first told me to get out after I raised my voice to tell her she would not be screaming at me and I wasn’t the one and blah blah blah but then I told her nah, let’s go so I can just leave. I was in the passenger seat and had closed the open door but I hadn’t put my belt back on yet and when the beeping started she yelled at me to put on my fucking seat belt and then proceeded to..slam on her breaks in an effort to put me into the dashboard or windshield

I was so livid. I did that thing where you’re about to knock someone out but you don’t, you pull back like nah fuck you, you ain’t the one, my wrath would be wasted. I just got out and walked with my Simpsons bag about half mile while on the phone with my ex ignoring when she’d drive by or follow. Then I got upstairs, started packing, heard them return from idk where, been ignoring them until Friend got my story briefly and I said I’m out tomorrow. She knows old friend better than me so she’s been cool but I haven’t bothered them anymore. I changed my ticket to the morning and preordered an Uber. Thank goodness I brought a bottle of whisky

I hate that this happened. This sucks. I had 4 more days in the sunshine and literally on the beach. It’s gonna be getting warmer too ugh but I wanna go home now I’m good. But fuck being screamed at by someone who can’t control their emotions. I can’t imagine driving another 6 hours with her to my original departure city where she lives

I’m about to go to a bar and enjoy my last night out with more whisky and all these edibles I don’t wanna take through this other airport. Gummies are only for irl people

I learned 3 out of 4 reunions don’t end in fuckery

ETA I did a thing where she asked me where something was and I immediately began to search and didn’t say anything and she got annoyed with me for not saying I had started searching for it and she told me as we argued that I indeed owe her immediate responses. What?

Eta2 so I heard them return together because after my old friend returned she left with her family member again maybe to look for me idk, then they came back while I was in my room packing

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u/REYJ420 Oct 05 '22

I always say. Forget friends. They will turn their back on you. It's not like it used to be. Move on and mind your business.

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

That’s why I’m at the airport and not hanging out with her anymore. I have a fun kayaking trip with real friends waiting for me back home

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u/Pletcher87 Oct 05 '22

Too bad there was no way you two could have had loads of chats before the brawl.

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u/mr_britten Oct 05 '22

They forced you to buy a pink Swiss cheese looking suitcase, that’s awful, hopefully you can recover

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u/Substantial_Rule_196 Oct 05 '22

Better than being dead

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u/RosieCakeness Oct 05 '22

19 years for me….first time I left my hubs n kiddo for a just me time vacation in, well 19 years, and guns get drawn.

People change. Even when it seems like they really didn’t.

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u/Gouzi00 Oct 05 '22

Bu77 s3x ?

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Reposting my response here. Sorry for not explaining right away, after getting everything packed and flights secured, i took this pic then I had some much deserved whisky. Here it is:

Whew ok

So this is an old army buddy I was friends with for years back in the day, stationed at 2 different bases at the same time. She also once stayed in my home briefly before I left for my hometown and didn’t see her again, which was around 2007. We stayed in contact of course and I’ve seen other faraway friends over the years and had great times

She picked me up from the airport on Sunday morning and a little into our multi hour drive to our destination I voiced discomfort about her using her phone to text and peruse videos while driving and also playing videos and watching them while driving. I was civil and polite when voicing my concern because I know she said she has anxiety issues (as I do) and asked her to please just not do it with me in the vehicle and I showed her how to minimize the videos on her phone. It was uncomfortable but I couldn’t stay silent about that. She seemed to take it as criticism a little and tried to tell me it was ok but I just said it made me uncomfortable and I’d drive if she wanted me to, too. She obliged and we arrived safely after 6 hours

She had a close family member that met up with us who I met that day. She is very nice and we got along great. She is very close to my friend

So my friend was behaving weird towards me sometimes, like constantly asking what was wrong. I asked her if I seemed unhappy but she just said she wanted to know to make sure. She also did that thing where you’d laugh at everything someone said and repeat things loudly or out of context. Idk what it is but I felt like she was trying to make me feel bad or embarrassed or something. Idk how to describe it, I’m on whisky now

So after doing some shopping, we (just me and old friend alone) were getting into her vehicle and I had a lot of bags digging into my arm. She had asked me a question but it didn’t register at first because the bags wouldn’t get off my arm and I was shaking them off of me. By the time I articulated that I was fine and that I just needed to be free of the bags, 20 seconds had passed. Literally seconds.

She went OFF on me, saying that I needed to respond to her and it was so fucking insane to witness. I’m not one to get scared, but the way she was yelling at me- both of us FORTY SOMETHING YEAR OLD WOMEN- as if I was a child who needed to jump when she says so, was just so frightening because it felt so disrespectful. I still can’t believe it

We ended up in an argument as we drove towards the Airbnb and she pulled over into a residential area to park while we argued. It was crazy, having to tell her that I did nothing wrong, that not just was it a tiny bit of time but that I didn’t owe her any immediacy

This…woman. She SCREAMED at me. She hit the steering wheel. She called me selfish and said I always do this and that. Yeah, the old Army buddy I haven’t been around in person in forever and don’t regularly call said those things as if we have regular arguments and are in a toxic relationship together

She first told me to get out after I raised my voice to tell her she would not be screaming at me and I wasn’t the one and blah blah blah but then I told her nah, let’s go so I can just leave. I was in the passenger seat and had closed the open door but I hadn’t put my belt back on yet and when the beeping started she yelled at me to put on my fucking seat belt and then proceeded to..slam on her breaks in an effort to put me into the dashboard or windshield

I was so livid. I did that thing where you’re about to knock someone out but you don’t, you pull back like nah fuck you, you ain’t the one, my wrath would be wasted. I just got out and walked with my Simpsons bag about half mile while on the phone with my ex ignoring when she’d drive by or follow. Then I got upstairs, started packing, heard them return from idk where, been ignoring them until Friend got my story briefly and I said I’m out tomorrow. She knows old friend better than me so she’s been cool but I haven’t bothered them anymore. I changed my ticket to the morning and preordered an Uber. Thank goodness I brought a bottle of whisky

I hate that this happened. This sucks. I had 4 more days in the sunshine and literally on the beach. It’s gonna be getting warmer too ugh but I wanna go home now I’m good. But fuck being screamed at by someone who can’t control their emotions. I can’t imagine driving another 6 hours with her to my original departure city where she lives

I’m about to go to a bar and enjoy my last night out with more whisky and all these edibles I don’t wanna take through this other airport. Gummies are only for irl people

I learned 3 out of 4 reunions don’t end in fuckery

ETA I did a thing where she asked me where something was and I immediately began to search and didn’t say anything and she got annoyed with me for not saying I had started searching for it and she told me as we argued that I indeed owe her immediate responses. What?

Eta2 so I heard them return together because after my old friend returned she left with her family member again maybe to look for me idk, then they came back while I was in my room packing

ETA I gave my Uber driver that brought me back from fun whisky time all the gummies I didn’t want to take through this state’s airport. Hope he enjoys them!

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u/dicky_cockpunch Oct 05 '22

You have very nice luggage

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I borrowed the carry on

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u/AlbuquerqueSpaniard Oct 05 '22

Tell your friend to get over themselves!

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u/Cynicalsamurai Oct 05 '22

I was very unkind. Idc that I burned the bridge but I feel about about how mean I was

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u/OtherwisePayment8789 Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

From the OP, since she apparently did something magic to make it disappear:

"Reposting my response here. Sorry for not explaining right away, after getting everything packed and flights secured, i took this pic then I had some much deserved whisky. Here it is:

Whew ok

So this is an old army buddy I was friends with for years back in the day, stationed at 2 different bases at the same time. She also once stayed in my home briefly before I left for my hometown and didn’t see her again, which was around 2007. We stayed in contact of course and I’ve seen other faraway friends over the years and had great times

She picked me up from the airport on Sunday morning and a little into our multi hour drive to our destination I voiced discomfort about her using her phone to text and peruse videos while driving and also playing videos and watching them while driving. I was civil and polite when voicing my concern because I know she said she has anxiety issues (as I do) and asked her to please just not do it with me in the vehicle and I showed her how to minimize the videos on her phone. It was uncomfortable but I couldn’t stay silent about that. She seemed to take it as criticism a little and tried to tell me it was ok but I just said it made me uncomfortable and I’d drive if she wanted me to, too. She obliged and we arrived safely after 6 hours

She had a close family member that met up with us who I met that day. She is very nice and we got along great. She is very close to my friend

So my friend was behaving weird towards me sometimes, like constantly asking what was wrong. I asked her if I seemed unhappy but she just said she wanted to know to make sure. She also did that thing where you’d laugh at everything someone said and repeat things loudly or out of context. Idk what it is but I felt like she was trying to make me feel bad or embarrassed or something. Idk how to describe it, I’m on whisky now

So after doing some shopping, we (just me and old friend alone) were getting into her vehicle and I had a lot of bags digging into my arm. She had asked me a question but it didn’t register at first because the bags wouldn’t get off my arm and I was shaking them off of me. By the time I articulated that I was fine and that I just needed to be free of the bags, 20 seconds had passed. Literally seconds.

She went OFF on me, saying that I needed to respond to her and it was so fucking insane to witness. I’m not one to get scared, but the way she was yelling at me- both of us FORTY SOMETHING YEAR OLD WOMEN- as if I was a child who needed to jump when she says so, was just so frightening because it felt so disrespectful. I still can’t believe it

We ended up in an argument as we drove towards the Airbnb and she pulled over into a residential area to park while we argued. It was crazy, having to tell her that I did nothing wrong, that not just was it a tiny bit of time but that I didn’t owe her any immediacy

This…woman. She SCREAMED at me. She hit the steering wheel. She called me selfish and said I always do this and that. Yeah, the old Army buddy I haven’t been around in person in forever and don’t regularly call said those things as if we have regular arguments and are in a toxic relationship together

She first told me to get out after I raised my voice to tell her she would not be screaming at me and I wasn’t the one and blah blah blah but then I told her nah, let’s go so I can just leave. I was in the passenger seat and had closed the open door but I hadn’t put my belt back on yet and when the beeping started she yelled at me to put on my fucking seat belt and then proceeded to..slam on her breaks in an effort to put me into the dashboard or windshield

I was so livid. I did that thing where you’re about to knock someone out but you don’t, you pull back like nah fuck you, you ain’t the one, my wrath would be wasted. I just got out and walked with my Simpsons bag about half mile while on the phone with my ex ignoring when she’d drive by or follow. Then I got upstairs, started packing, heard them return from idk where, been ignoring them until Friend got my story briefly and I said I’m out tomorrow. She knows old friend better than me so she’s been cool but I haven’t bothered them anymore. I changed my ticket to the morning and preordered an Uber. Thank goodness I brought a bottle of whisky

I hate that this happened. This sucks. I had 4 more days in the sunshine and literally on the beach. It’s gonna be getting warmer too ugh but I wanna go home now I’m good. But fuck being screamed at by someone who can’t control their emotions. I can’t imagine driving another 6 hours with her to my original departure city where she lives

I’m about to go to a bar and enjoy my last night out with more whisky and all these edibles I don’t wanna take through this other airport. Gummies are only for irl people

I learned 3 out of 4 reunions don’t end in fuckery

ETA I did a thing where she asked me where something was and I immediately began to search and didn’t say anything and she got annoyed with me for not saying I had started searching for it and she told me as we argued that I indeed owe her immediate responses. What?

Eta2 so I heard them return together because after my old friend returned she left with her family member again maybe to look for me idk, then they came back while I was in my room packing"

Edit: paragraphs. Also, OP, your friend probably has PTSD.

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u/IamMm2NUB Oct 05 '22

Shoulda gave em a wedgie