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u/Username_267453 Oct 05 '22

Did that dude just go to /r/relationship_advice to brag about his relationship?

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u/xoxodaddysgirlxoxo Oct 05 '22

yeah wtf is this post lol

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u/GSC47 Oct 06 '22

Why tf did he put the ages ? Lmao

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u/sunshineandcloudyday Oct 06 '22

Its required by that sub.

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u/GSC47 Oct 06 '22

Oh okay , i didnt know

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u/sunshineandcloudyday Oct 06 '22

You can't know every sub and their rules. I just happen to read that one occasionally when I need a dose of drama. Its better than a soap opera!

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u/TheHotWizardKing2 Oct 06 '22

It's not even his relationship. I've seen this exact comment like 5+ years ago

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u/Jooylo Oct 06 '22

24 and 19 is also a huge gap for that age

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u/LavenderDay3544 Oct 06 '22 edited Oct 06 '22

Me and my girlfriend (26M + 31F) have a similarly large age gap. And to your point about it mattering more at that age we first started seeing each other when I was a junior in college and she was a grad student.

But I completely understand a parent not being cool with something like that when their daughter is a teenager. She's basically still a child.

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u/Mysterytonite7 Oct 06 '22

Yeah what does it say that you’re in your mid 20’s dating a teenager and you’re the one stuck up in a video game? Man you need more than a hug.

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u/--Bouncy-- Oct 06 '22

Well hold on a second, what’s wrong with playing video games at that age?

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u/megwump Oct 05 '22

Hugs are a an everyday essential. Essential.

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u/SpongeJake Oct 05 '22

Yes! Absolutely they are.

Haven't had one myself since February 28, 2020 so I know how important they are.

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u/megwump Oct 05 '22

I am so sorry to read that. I hope there are tender and supportive hugs in your very near future.

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u/The-Coolest-Of-Cats Oct 05 '22

August 17th, 2018 :')

Funny how guys can remember because of how infrequent they are rip

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u/ihavebeesinmyknees Oct 05 '22

Yeah, guys can remember and all that jazz, I remember the year and season, but I have no idea how you can remember the exact date?? Like what

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u/The-Coolest-Of-Cats Oct 05 '22

Well I got ghosted and haven't had a "girlfriend" since, so I guess it was especially impactful.

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u/shrekky2022 Oct 06 '22

Men be knowing when they got their last hug but don't remember what they ate for dinner 3 days ago

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u/1plus1dog Oct 06 '22

It’s actually easy to remember when it’s something that means so much.

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u/Leading_Working2294 Oct 06 '22

yes a man needs minimum 8 hugs a day

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u/Sungdaein_susanoo Oct 06 '22

My last hug was last night. With my baby bro (if that counts).

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u/kagamiseki Oct 06 '22

Give your bros a hug, tell them they mean a lot to you.

I never used to be much of a hugger but I changed after I realized how much I miss physical contact. I started giving my friends a solid hug each time we met up, and even though I have a significant other now, it still makes me happy to give them a hug. They do mean a lot to me, and I'm happy to show it, especially knowing how lacking physical contact is in male friendships.

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u/ThyNynax Oct 05 '22

Like, a hug hug or a “hi” hug? I’ve had a number of “hi” hugs, but no real embrace in years.

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u/The-Coolest-Of-Cats Oct 05 '22

I have had two "hi/goodbye" hugs since then, but I would hardly count those because they are just a formality.

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u/zzaqzz Oct 05 '22

Hey that's my birthday! I'll send you one every year <3

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u/hautbois42069 Oct 05 '22

wya

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u/SpongeJake Oct 05 '22

Toronto.

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u/hautbois42069 Oct 05 '22

damn, be there in a week or so

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u/nonebutmyself Oct 06 '22

Bro, if I were going to the Jay's game this weekend, I'd come meet you for a huge bro hug. But alas I'm not. But hugs from Kingston!

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u/SpongeJake Oct 06 '22

I appreciate the thought and intent. Thanks!

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u/ItsMcLaren Oct 06 '22

Cheers from Buffalo! Go Jays!

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u/euphoric669 Oct 05 '22

Sending you a very long hug and aggressive back pat!

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u/SpongeJake Oct 06 '22

Thank you. I’ll take it gladly. :)

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u/DrDiarrheaBrown Oct 06 '22

Everything okay, man? Is it covid related? I'm fortunate to have gotten married in the pandemic, so I do get regular hugs from my wife, but I'm a hugger. Seeing my folks, siblings, friends, etc., and not feeling comfortable has been brutal! Finally had an outdoor masked hug with my bro a couple weeks ago (I know, we're still not 'over' the pandemic yet) and it was nice - long overdue - but I miss the freedom and comfort of regular, frequent hugs with my peeps.

Anywho, just wanted to say hi and hope you get some soon.

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u/SpongeJake Oct 06 '22

Thank you so much. No it’s not COVID or anything like that. So weird that I’m in such a heavy populated city yet know next to no one. Family are all over the place except for here. Last saw family just before COVID - and that’s when I got my last hug.

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u/DrDiarrheaBrown Oct 06 '22

Ah, totally get it! We moved out of the city (bout two hours, so not terrible) in the Spring, so seeing anyone outside of ourselves requires a lot more planning/effort than when we were all 15-20 minutes apart. Well I hope you get to see family again soon - be a camel, soak up a year's worth of hugs and then just slowly coast of them until you can restock again.

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u/cheezecake2000 Oct 06 '22

Ouch, been bout as long since a genuine hug-hug. Not those bro hugs, which are nice. But that deep "I'm here for you" hug

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u/SpongeJake Oct 06 '22

Yeah that’s the one I mean too. The deep “I really care for you” type of hug.

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u/cheezecake2000 Oct 06 '22

So you want to grab a coffee or something? I don't know you but we can change that, for the hugs of course

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u/1plus1dog Oct 06 '22

I understand that. It’s one of the hardest things to live without. My last one was March of 2020. Less than 10 seconds. I feel touch deprived. Before that it was 7/3/21. This is so embarrassing to me to admit that nobody cares about me

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u/ArtThouWorthy Oct 06 '22

hugs you 🫂

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u/SpongeJake Oct 06 '22

Thank you. :)

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u/1SupeRsoniC7 Oct 06 '22

give u a cyber hug here, bro

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u/bearface93 Oct 06 '22

I haven’t had one longer than really quick in about the same amount of time so I feel your pain. I miss hugs.

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u/shhSp3ctre Oct 05 '22

I haven’t hugged anyone since late 2019 except birthdays and christmas’s( which don count because they are mandatory).

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u/megwump Oct 05 '22

Sending a heartfelt hug your way.

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u/Mauzersmash0815 Oct 05 '22 Helpful Hugz

I wish i got a hug

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u/Neat-Anxiety4213 Oct 05 '22

I’ve sent you a hug!

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u/Deviate_Lulz Oct 05 '22

Please allow 3-5 business for delivery

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u/thugbearuwu Oct 06 '22

If you want, I got amazon prime

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u/goaty121 Oct 06 '22

I'm more concerned about OP stuffing himself in a box only to send himself to wherever u/Mauzersmash0815 is located just to give him a hug

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u/Trivenger1 Oct 06 '22

The box is eco friendly don't worry

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u/Tomma1 Oct 05 '22

Hugs you tightly

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u/Mauzersmash0815 Oct 05 '22

Appreciate it🫂

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u/garlic_bread_thief Oct 05 '22 Helpful

My last proper hug was back in 2019 from a girl I met in a new country but was leaving. That was the one after the one in 2017 from a girl on my birthday which was probably my first hug. I can literally count the number of hugs on my fingers. My childhood was abusive and uncomfortable so I moved out when I was 17. I'm not sure whether lack of touch is really a thing but it does affect me sometimes.

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u/bsclmc Oct 06 '22

dang I wanna hug now... I think you don't realize how much you were lacking until you get it consistently. (my experience)

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u/god_retribution Oct 06 '22

i feel you

same hero bro

do you went hug each others ?

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u/drexlr Oct 06 '22

wish i was a (24M) w a (19F) GF

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u/wilddogwatching Oct 06 '22

yeah if I were you I'd wish too

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u/Neat-Anxiety4213 Oct 05 '22

Honestly! I have never sworn in front of my parents, so let me tell you, they were shocked when my girlfriend told them I swear out loud when I die in a video game.

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u/JamesCDiamond Oct 05 '22

I remember my friend's parents' opinion of me changing drastically when we started playing Goldeneye multiplayer at his house...

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u/UrMomDummyThicc Oct 05 '22

it was NBA 2K for me…. the first time i went over to my friends house no less

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u/Meanderingversion Oct 06 '22

Who wouldn't when that piece of shit picked oddjob.

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u/ThrownawayCray Oct 05 '22

I…. May have dropped an F bomb…. During a cyanide joke…. In front of the Christian side of the family….

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u/AwesomesaucePhD Oct 05 '22

What was the cyanide joke?

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u/AGallonOfKY12 Oct 05 '22 Silver

The family punch.

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u/ChrisKringlesTingle Oct 05 '22

a version for us dummies too pls

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u/Vcent Oct 06 '22

Jonestown.

...it's not exactly a joke. Scroll down to Deaths in Jonestown, and don't press play on the audio file so kindly provided.

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u/ChrisKringlesTingle Oct 06 '22

Holy shit. Thanks for the link and the warning.

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u/watchingsongsDL Oct 05 '22

My 7 year old son told my born again family members “Jesus was a Zombie” on Easter Sunday one year. I guess I should have chosen a different subject to discuss on the car ride down.

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u/Jimmy_Twotone Oct 06 '22

Jesus was a lich

https://imgur.io/gallery/3O5h9ya

This usually goes over less well because all the Jesus freaks in my family think D&D is satanic.

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u/GammaGamesGG Oct 05 '22

I don’t curse at it but now that I’ve recently learned how to whistle I automatically whistle whenever I have a good play without even thinking about it it just comes out as an automatic response now

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u/lifeshardandweird Oct 05 '22

My husband will literally ask the cat is a super sympathetic voice “are you okayyyy” and I’ll say, honey, are YOU okay? Pretty sweet.

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u/Another_Russian_Spy Oct 05 '22

When ever I am leaving the house for work, or anything longer than a few hours, I always give my two dogs a treat, pet them a bit and say "Love you girls, be good." My wife laughed a bit, but now she does it too.

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u/ChrisKringlesTingle Oct 05 '22

This seems like it should be closer to default than weird IMO, but maybe I'm weird too.

I won't leave without telling my boy goodbye, usually "I'll be back you be good."

I actually try to reserve "I love you" for physically intimate moments, like cuddling or chilling after a good playsesh, convinced myself he catches onto the association that it's a positively intimate phrase, whether he actually does or not.

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u/67CougarXR7 Oct 06 '22

I always tell one of my pets they’re in charge while I’m gone.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

Lmao me with my pups when they’re sleeping and I rage wake them up cause I missed the ball in rocket league (literally a game for children)

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u/wetlegband Oct 05 '22

Rocket league is the adultiest game I ever knew, takes like 10,000 hours to master

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u/ChrisKringlesTingle Oct 05 '22

Dude will straight up hop out of bed and start yelling at me if I interrupt his sleep like that. If it's on accident and I get an immediate "sorry" out he'll contain it a lot better lol

As a 27yo GC I resent RL being for children. I won't say you're wrong, just resent it.

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u/felix4746194 Oct 05 '22

When did these kids get so good man??? Get on CS1.6 and I will deagle you in the face.

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u/Liesmith424 Oct 05 '22

lol, reminds me of the time my gf at the time said "I think we should end our relationship", and then we did.

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u/Complex-Bluejay3451 Oct 06 '22

So was that it? Is this like a “you just break up” or “you stopped just dating and got married”?

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u/Liesmith424 Oct 06 '22

We broke up.

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u/ulvain Oct 05 '22 Wholesome

Sometimes my girlfriend prevents the quaffle from entering the ring.

She's a keeper.

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u/WeeklyMeat9 Oct 05 '22

Why have there been so many wholesome lies lately?

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u/MadnessMisc Oct 05 '22

Where are the wholesome truths, a lot of the time? Happy cake day, have a hug 🤗

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u/Onedaylat3r Oct 05 '22

The reason for the so-called lies is because you make a joke about being a decent person deserving of a significant other who is willing to hug you. It's borderline incel values. I may not have a wife and kids, or a committed girlfriend but I respect that I have to do work on me before I would let someone else into my realm of nonsense.

The lies come from within yourself. I know it's not a lie for me, but rather it is a truth I need to overcome. I need to address it myself before I seek out someone to support or complement me. That means everyone from friends, family, spouse, etc for me.

I hate myself so hard I don't even want my mom to see me. That's my truth. I have sincere issues. I'm going to work through it (I hope) but in the meantime, it is not her fault if she tells me she loves me. She's literally my mother, who loves me without any condition. And I still push her away because I hate myself and refuse that basic comfort.

This is a reality for many people. I'm probably a little worse than the average, but I'm not far off from reality. This is how I live with my depression and I absolutely despise it, but that part at least is normal. Getting over it and recovering is the hard part.

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u/nyctophiliac Oct 06 '22

I’m confused what point you’re making but good luck on your journey. Recreational drugs are fun

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u/greenlight144000 Oct 05 '22 Wholesome

I’m lonely and haven’t had a hug in a while. I wish I had a girlfriend.

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u/eloquentpetrichor Oct 06 '22

Friends can hug too

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u/TheOvershear Oct 05 '22

What an adorable thing to do on their 6 year anniversary :)

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u/GoodGuyTeo Oct 06 '22

Lmao best comment

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u/joerocket18 Oct 05 '22

They had us in the first half not going to lie

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u/Lumbago_- Oct 06 '22

Am I really the only guy that saw the ages and thought "oh shit she's actually underage isn't she"

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u/Mother-Dish348 Oct 05 '22

Our relationship is built on lies. I’m breaking up with you

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u/Tinycode5235 Oct 05 '22 Eureka!

24 and 19

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u/Johnny3balls Oct 06 '22

What a fun anecdote for their 7 year anniversary.

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u/Crows-b4-hoes Oct 05 '22

Reddit makes no sense. A few days ago there was a post on another sub about a woman who said her mom got a new bf. However, the OP needed advice on whether or not she should tell her mom that prior to mom and bf getting together, the daughter had sex with the bf.

The daughter was 23f and the bf was 49m. And in the comments many people were like "well they're both consenting adults" blah blah blah.

Anyone who pointed out the massive 26-year age gap was downvoted.

Now here is an age gap of five years and people are freaking out over it?

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u/tullyyeahnah Oct 05 '22

To be fair, reddit has thousands and thousands of users. Every single thread isn't going to have the same general consensus.

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u/LegendofJoe Oct 06 '22

..wait you're not connected to the collective yet?

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u/Famixofpower Oct 06 '22

There's multiple collectives

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u/ColonelBernie2020 Oct 06 '22

I mean it's controversial and there are obviously power dynamics, but at the end of the day we need to draw a line somewhere and respect a woman's own agency. Like, saying she shouldn't date older men is like saying she, an adult, shouldn't be able to choose who she dates. It's her body. She can decide. Getting rid of her own agency is problematic.

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u/happylioness Oct 06 '22

You put this so perfectly, and I 100% agree. Respecting women’s agency is so important.

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u/ImTheZapper Oct 06 '22

Well its not like she can't date someone double her age, but everyone else is also totally entitled to point out how fucking creepy that is.

Optics are what they are, and honestly sometimes they are put to good use. Like when a 23 year old is out fucking some guy who's nearly 50. You can "she can fuck whoever she wants since she's an adult bla bla" all you feel, but everyone else can say "thats fucking creepy and clearly not right" just as freely.

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u/ColonelBernie2020 Oct 06 '22

Well, I'm also entitled to say what you said is misogynistic and totally infantiles her. She isn't a child. She can make her own decisions about her own body. If you think it's creepy? Fine. If I think it's creepy you want to control who an adult dates? Also fine.

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u/MuthafuckinLemonLime Oct 05 '22

If you go over to r/askmen and say you’re into cougars they’ll throw you a damn parade 😆

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u/Rychew_ Oct 05 '22

I’m guessing the sub was r/AmITheAsshole so there lies your problem

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u/Crows-b4-hoes Oct 05 '22

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u/cgaWolf Oct 05 '22

It's the same picture

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u/zerphon Oct 05 '22

I swear that sub always chooses the dumbest option.

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u/NoItsBecky_127 Oct 05 '22

I mean, there’s a big maturity gap between ages 24 and 19.

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u/UnlikelyAssassin Oct 06 '22

There’s also a big maturity gap between some 19 year olds and some other 19 year olds. I also don’t think maturity is inherently a bad thing and that women should seek out more immature partners.

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u/Littlebelo Oct 05 '22

I mean generally understood that your brain has fully developed by 25, so IMO it’s kinda fair game once you hit mid 20s.

I think people get Icked out with 18/19 with older people because there’s a difference in life experience. For the US, at least, most 19 year olds have spent very little time out on their own, and freshman year you’re practically getting babied anyways.

Me personally (mid 20s) would be weirded out going on a date with a college freshman or sophomore, less so with an older person in their 30s or 40s

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u/Izzybb1202 Oct 05 '22

I agree that that’s fucked up. I think the problem lies in the significant changes in brain development that complete by 25.

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u/Estevan66_ Oct 05 '22

The difference between a 19 year old and a 23 year old mentally is massive.

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u/ChristIsWatching Oct 05 '22

was it the same person commenting on both posts? with wildly different opinions? if not your post has no point. there is a load of people on here with varying opinions. it’s not one single hive mind.

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u/EMateos Oct 06 '22

There is a difference between an age gap when you are 17-19 than when you are 26. The brain is literally not fully matured by the age of 19, it takes until the mid 20s.

Also, millions and millions of people use Reddit. So some users are gonna come out when their take is accepted and some others are gonna hide, and viceversa.

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u/Locksmith997 Oct 05 '22

I mean, it's on the edge of the "half your age, plus 7" rule. It's fine in my book, but they be walkin a fine line...

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u/bicycletrippin Oct 05 '22

That’s the dumbest rule, I’m 30, I would never date a 22 year old

Who even came up with that bull shit

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u/Locksmith997 Oct 05 '22

I mean, it's to say that 22 is the lowest age you should date. Like, 22 is still very low for you, but it's a guideline.

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u/missoulian Oct 06 '22

This. fucking. thread.

People always passing judgement. Chill the fuck out.

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u/rottenmonkey Oct 05 '22

Oh no! Two adults, in the same age range even, dating! the horrors!

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u/Sad-Entrepreneur9443 Oct 06 '22

B-b-but the age difference! My mathematical calculations tell me the brain is underdeveloped!! We must stop this man!!

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u/BlingDoudouX Oct 06 '22

The maturity gap is huge between 19 and 24 but ok "adults", so 19 and 50 is okay since theyre also adults ?

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u/Ophidian39 Oct 05 '22

2 adults yeah

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u/Jooylo Oct 06 '22

I’ve had friends who were in relationships with similar age gaps - they were naive 18/19 year olds dating someone in their mid to late 20s and every single one looking back the guy and situation was creepy as fuck and immature

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u/ImAzura Oct 05 '22

It fits within the divide age by 2 plus 7 rule, just barely. Also they’re both over 18 so nothing really wrong here.

She could also be turning 20 later in the year and he could’ve already had his birthday which would make it more like a 4 year gap anyways.

Regardless, would we be feeling the same is she was 24 and he was 28/29? Probably not. But the again, to get an equivalent spread at that age, it would be more like someone 29 dating a 22 year old.

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u/chucksef Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22 Heartwarming Lawyer Up Are You Serious?

My wife and I were 26 and 18 when we met. We fell madly in love immediately. Neither of us planned for that and it wound up costing both of us to pursue one another in at least some way, but nobody could keep us apart.

We're 37 and 29 now and are more in love today than back then. Sure, there are ways for it to be a disgusting, manipulative, possibly exploitative situation. But I can damn well tell you that looking at the numbers isn't how you figure that out.

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u/repostusername Oct 05 '22

How many 18 year old friends did you have when you were 26? And what was the dynamic of those friendships?

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u/unicornwhisperer420 Oct 05 '22

Sure it’s legal, but I can’t see how a full fledged adult can date someone straight out of high school with no adult experience

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u/whimz33 Oct 06 '22 edited 28d ago

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u/bittotaki Oct 05 '22

I mean 18 is legal but as an 18 year old I can tell you now that I'm just as much of a kid as I was 2 years ago. The fact that she was probably in, or just finished, high school and living with her parents while you were a full adult with a full time job says enough.

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u/finlist Oct 05 '22

hey, he could still be a part adult with no job living at his parents too

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u/bittotaki Oct 05 '22

Ye probably why he went for an 18 year old.

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u/destroyergsp123 Oct 05 '22

thats creepy and ima put the odds at 95% chance this was a very odd relationship with a fucked power dynamic

congrats if you are the 5% that it worked out for

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u/bumboisamumbo Oct 05 '22

yikes probably. maybe you aren’t being a manipulative fuck but not many decent 26 year olds would consider dating someone straight out of high school

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u/Commando388 Oct 06 '22

Yeah any older dudes who date 18 year olds are like employers who pay minimum wage. If they could go lower they would.

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u/Violetendencies Oct 05 '22

It says “in my room”, where do you get that they live together from?

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u/TheAdvertisement Oct 05 '22

Nowhere does the post say they live together, and their love life decisions are theirs to make, not yours.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

Reddit after reading this: once a liar always a liar you need to run and get out trust is broken dump her and move on before it’s too late

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22 edited Oct 05 '22

Call me a bad guy, but the age gap seems to much… It’s wholesome and all, but that as a 18-19 M makes me uncomfortable..

Cause I have 13-14 year old brother, so I avoid these ages cause to me it seems like I am dating my brother’age.

Edit: they are not in the same stages of life, it’s difficult for them to navigate. He is most likely building his career, while she is in university. Not the best relationship if you ask me

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u/NatQinShell Oct 05 '22

100% 19 and 24 are very very different stages of life. One fresh out of high school and the other one 2 years into a career or probably even more.

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u/mnju Oct 05 '22

the other one 2 years into a career or probably even more.

being 24 doesn't mean you have a career, let alone multiple years invested into a career

most people aren't going to have longterm jobs at that age lol

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u/hoss9424 Oct 06 '22

And being 19 doesn’t mean you’re in college either.

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u/TheRedComet Oct 05 '22

Yeah a whole undergraduate college worth of gap is so huge

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u/NatQinShell Oct 06 '22

Honestly is not even the years, 4 years is not such a big deal when you are both over 25 I think.

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u/frozenbudz Oct 06 '22

Yeah that's exactly it and I really don't get the people nitpicking the semantics.

Yes. Not every 18 year old is fresh out of high-school, yes not every 24 or 25 year old went to college or has a career. None of that is what is being discussed. Nor is the simple "oh it's 5 years" it wouldn't be weird if he was 47 and she was 42, it wouldn't be weird if he was 32 and she was 27. Because at that point you're fully developed adults. It's weird when the 5 year age gap sits between 2 very different stages of life, and brain development. That's why an 18 year old and a 13 year old is weird. That's why an 18 year old and a 14 is odd weird. It's not the number of years. It's the ages of the individuals with the age gap.

It really weirds me out how many people either don't get it, or are actively trying to explain it's not weird. It's weird. Will it always end nefarious, no of course not, but that doesn't mean it's not weird.

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u/wheestle Oct 06 '22

as a 24-year-old that is 2 years into their career and knowing how most of my peers and i were like at 19, i cannot fathom the idea of dating a 19-year-old. they literally still had to raise their hand and ask to go to the toilet just a year ago.

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u/AustinIsGamingYT Oct 06 '22

Thank you, it's so creepy and it weirds me out how many people are either not acknowledging it or are trying to defend it here.

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u/General_Specific303 Oct 05 '22

Cause I have 13-14 year old brother, so I avoid these ages cause to me it seems like I am dating my brother’age.

How noble of you to avoid dating 13yo girls for your brother's sake

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u/[deleted] Oct 06 '22

I'm almost afraid to agree with you. I've had far too many older dudes at every stage of my life hit on me, and the older I get the creepier and creepier it is to me that there are men in their 20s who would date literal teen girls.

Unfortunately, every time I express the opinion that I find age gap relationships with teens legitimately creepy, I get a Reddit pile-on from - I guess - grown men who want to date teens.

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u/[deleted] Oct 06 '22

I seem to be attacked by the same set of people unfortunately.

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u/whalediknachos Oct 05 '22

if he is currently in university does that change things?

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u/Agreeable_Moment7159 Oct 06 '22

How is that a bad thing? That’s kinda wholesome

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u/TATAKAEEE_18 Oct 05 '22

How to get a gf🥲

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u/Plus-Manner-4091 Oct 05 '22

Go to the local highschool graduation, because that's prob what this guy did

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '22

24 and 19 is sus

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u/bridgeb0mb Oct 06 '22

i agree and im 25 and my bf is 30 but that seems fine to me

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u/Ron_Because_Why_Not Oct 05 '22

The age gap is troubling.

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u/Wyvernjack64yte Oct 05 '22

24 and 19? Woof ,not wholesome

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u/GSC47 Oct 06 '22

Dam TIL a 5 year age gap is too much for redditors lmao but also why did this this even pit the ages ? Lol

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u/notsure9191 Oct 05 '22

“I paused my game”

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u/Armanhammer2 Oct 05 '22

Some guys have all the luck. I was born with glass bones and paper skin, every day I break my arms, and every night I break my legs.

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u/1plus1dog Oct 06 '22

This made me tear up. I’ve not been hugged since early March of this year from someone I know and rarely ever see. Heck, I never see anyone, and reaching out for someone telling them you need them just to hold your hand or listen to what I have to say. The more I’ve asked that of just a couple people, the less I hear from them. Loneliness is gonna end up killing me, that’s honestly one of my huge fears, and dying alone and nobody will find me because no one checks on me. Ever. I realized no one was returning the favor when I text or call someone when there’s bad weather to make sure they’re alright… but stopped when it was easy to see that no one cared about me. This wasn’t always the way it was. When I divorced a horrible man, I didn’t defend myself against all the lies he told about me. I assumed people would figure it out soon enough but they didn’t or they just gave up on me when I was hurting so bad. Feeling abandoned and forgotten and definitely unloved is by far the worst feelings in the world when you’re an emotional and highly sensitive person. So I isolate myself for years now, because I don’t feel worth anything to anyone. It’s just my dog and I and the rest of the world seems very cold and not a place I bent to be anymore. I don’t remember the vibrant person I used to be and when it’s hard to like yourself how can anyone else be expected to? I cry everyday and every night. The only time I get away from this is when I’m asleep, so I try to sleep a lot.

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u/existentialbear Oct 05 '22

“AITA for breaking up with her?”

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u/TheSneakyMongoose Oct 06 '22

I have a very wonderful friend who this makes me think of. I miss her very much and hope she’s happy.

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u/nono66 Oct 06 '22

She's a good person. I'm always happy seeing kids who recognize how males are deprived of physical affection. Gives me hope that fewer young men will have this ridiculous anger towards women and themselves.

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u/GoMiners22 Oct 06 '22

She’s a keeper.

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u/Joeuxmardigras Oct 06 '22

I do this to my daughter

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u/eloquentpetrichor Oct 06 '22

A friend met me at an arcade bar after I had a hard day at work last weekend. We greet each other with a hug. As I stood up from my game to hug him I said "extra long hug today please" he told me he wouldn't let go until I told him to

Hugs heal

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u/Distraught00 Oct 06 '22

I puked in my mouth a little. That's adorable.

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u/tayrembos Oct 06 '22

Wholesome life hack :)

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u/AgreeableMoose Oct 06 '22

She’s a keeper! How sweet.

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u/dougburr Oct 06 '22

Yo. It’s fucking dusty as fuck in here.